Find Your Soul Mate

How do you find your soul mate…how do you even know when you've found that special relationship?

Some people say they "just know." Others identify several characteristics and reasons why they simply seem to mesh perfectly with their relationship counterpart.  For me, both those statements ring true.  I “just knew,” and I can click off many characteristics about my husband which confirm that he is indeed my soul mate.

There will always be things you like and dislike about someone.  However, the true test is deciding whether or not you can lovingly accept the negative characteristics.

Sometimes you may find yourself caring about someone very much.  Then you discover… they exhibit some traits that you simply cannot accept for one reason or another.

If you want to find your soul mate, there are things you can begin looking for in order to start the process. Here are some factors to think about when trying to find that special partner:

Morals & Beliefs - Everyone comes with their own set of morals and beliefs. Morally, we all agree that we should be open, honest, and accepting of others. But often when our core beliefs differ from one another, it's hard to have a lasting relationship.

That’s why it’s important that you have in-depth discussions about faith, morals, and beliefs with potential partners. If someone isn't a fit at that level, you should seriously consider whether the relationship is worth getting serious about.

Communication - You’ve heard over and over again that communication is of key importance in relationships. There are different ways of communicating. Figure out the best way to communicate with your partner. At the same time, determine whether or not you can live with their communication style. Some partners enjoy talking things through… while others are more sensitive to nonverbal communication.

Respect - Does your potential partner give you the full respect you deserve? You're a special individual, so don’t give yourself to just anyone. Make sure he or she respects you.  You're worth it!

Personality - Your personality plays a big role in your compatibility with others. It's debatable whether or not it's best to be with someone with a similar personality to yours…or someone opposite yours.    In this case, you'll have to decide which works out best for you.

Hobbies & Interests - Most likely, you won't share every hobby and interest that your partner enjoys. However, it definitely helps the relationship when you have some common interests.   This provides opportunities for shared activities and many of topics for conversation.

Conflict - Even the most perfect couples deal with conflict from time to time. Both you and your partner must learn the best ways for getting through arguments effectively. Don’t play the blame game.  Discuss issues calmly. If your potential mate attacks you or consistently ignores your feelings, then it's probably not a good fit.

When you first meet someone, you may be attracted to his or her looks or personality. As you get to know each other better, you'll be able to see the clues as to whether or not you've found your true soul mate.

Try not to rush things along because anything worth having is worth waiting for.   When you find your soul mate, you’ll know… it was well worth the wait!

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